Your clitoris, prioritize pleasure. And do it first thing, every day.
Did she like it? What should I do, ask her? And if, right at the most important moment, she pretends, how can I tell? These are just some of the typically male questions that surround the female orgasm with an aura of mystery. But in recent years, science has demystified and understood at least some of the most characteristic aspects of female pleasure.
The G-spot exists, there is proof
The G-spot is a very small area of the vagina which, when properly stimulated, produces extremely intense orgasms in the woman. The existence of the G-spot has been known and proven for decades, but until 2008 no one had managed to anatomically identify its position. Last year, a team of Italian doctors led by Emmanuele Jannini, professor of medical sexology at the University of L’Aquila, succeeded in locating it in a small space between the urethra and the vagina. In women who orgasm from the G-spot, this portion of tissue is thicker than in others.
At the climax, she no longer understands anything
During orgasm, she is literally no longer able to connect: functional magnetic resonance imaging has shown that in those moments many areas of her brain “switch off,” including those dedicated to emotions. In men this effect is less significant, because their orgasm lasts for a shorter time.
Many women do not experience it
According to an American study from 1999, 43% of American women have problems reaching orgasm. Some researchers have therefore raised a provocative question: if almost half of women do not experience it, could it be that anorgasmia should not be considered a disease? Despite this, many pharmacological therapies are being studied to counter this problem, including one based on Viagra, which so far, however, has not given fully satisfactory results.
Sex: women reach orgasm more easily when they know their partner well
In what situation does a woman reach orgasm more easily? The question may be of particular interest to men, who are usually concerned with their partner’s sexual satisfaction.
Well, a U.S. study has confirmed what experience has always taught women: it is easier to enjoy when you know your partner well. In other words: sleeping with the first man you meet generally does not provide unforgettable moments of pleasure, especially because casual male lovers are normally focused on their own satisfaction. Female orgasms, instead, become more frequent as the relationship continues and mutual understanding deepens.
The data is clear: only 11% of women experience pleasure during their first sexual encounter with a man they have just met, 16% at the second or third meeting, 34% after five or six evenings spent together, and 67% after six months.
These results certainly do not surprise the readers of this article, and they can be explained by several reasons: firstly, it takes time to really know what the other person likes; intimacy makes it possible to feel freer, even to openly ask for sexual services that one might be ashamed of with a stranger; and for many people, having sex with someone they care about increases pleasure. Finally, women are weighed down by the prejudice that casual sex is wrong: a perspective that can influence quick sexual encounters.
Should single women who do not intend to start a family resign themselves to a sex life poor in orgasms? Not at all.
Below, an infographic by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, researcher at Harvard University, shows, for example, that mental attitude matters a lot when it comes to casual sex: 45% of women reach orgasm if they intend to develop a relationship with that man, while only 37% reach it if such an intention is absent.
The probability of reaching pleasure increases if penetration is accompanied by other activities: +18% if the woman stimulates herself manually, +5% if he stimulates her manually, +3% in the case of fellatio, +9% in the case of cunnilingus, and +15% with anal sex.